The Importance of Support System

The Importance of Support System

I think this is why weight management companies are popular. Having a support system is definitely a plus point when you are trying to lose weight. Having someone who is going to recognise your achievement, or push you harder for that extra mile, to shift that extra kilo…

Some of us know the pain of trying to eat healthy while the other family members are not on board with the idea of swapping the butter with sunflower spread. Oh yes, we know the pain when we are counting the calories, but our partners decided to order Chinese Take Away for dinner instead of… whatever healthy, low calorie stuff we’ve made.

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Not mentioning how difficult it is not to react when we hear, from the other side of the room, someone was opening a new bag of Doritos. Oh… you can smell the cheesy flavouring too… That’s too much.

I have to say though… My family in Indonesia is good with this support system thing. They’re clueless about being healthy, but whenever I said I wanted to go on a diet, they will go the extra mile to accommodate this. My mother would buy extra apples for me, my dad would brew extra green tea. Nobody in the house would order KFC during the weekdays (no support on weekends, Darlings…)

My mother would be the first one recognising if I have lost some weight. She would make a commentary about how my jawline has slimming, or something like that. It could go the other way round, though. My mother would also be the first one to see if my butts have become larger, and when it happened, she wouldn’t pull punches.

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But yeah, in Indonesia, my family believes that it takes a village to lose one’s waistline.

In the UK, I found people are more… careful. What I mean is, people like my mother, who would happily commenting on my weight would be considered as a bully, and insensitive. In our culture, this expression of care and love would be seen as being offensive. For me, it is harder to go on a denial when my mother reminds me how round I have become, something that I can easily do here.

With little to none family support in the UK, I can see the appeal of community support that weight loss management companies are offering. They would have a weekly meeting where everyone would talk about their weight loss accomplishments, because they cannot talk about it at home. It is nice to have people cheering for us for every single kilo we drop, and every single inches we lost.

It is nice to know that on weeks we did not lose any, there are someone who are on the same boat with us. We can commiserate together, learn from it together, and move on together. It is indeed very empowering.

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But, do we really need to spend money on weight loss management companies to get the support we need? I don’t believe so. Like I said, family is for me the best supporter I need. But even here in the UK, I can always have support from the internet.

My Fitness Pal community is a very supportive place. Not only they are free, but they are also packed with information. If you go there to ask someone about your weight loss problems: “why didn’t I lose this week?” or “I am bored with chicken, do you have recipe ideas?” you are guaranteed to get a satisfying answer.

Blogging community is also a great place to get a support system. Probably passively, because not many people actually make comments and actively making friends here. But passively, you can read how other people struggled and survived. You can see how they strive, and learn from it. It is a great place, and I do learn a lot from you guys too…

So… Do you have a support system? Do you think they’re helpful?

7 thoughts on “The Importance of Support System

    1. I’ve never been into fitness training, but I can imagine how support group will affect your training…

  1. I like the sound of your mother; she’s my kind of woman! No-nonsense, pulls no punches and just tells you the truth, for your own good. That’s how I prefer to operate, but you wouldn’t believe the number of emotional children out there who go off crying any time you try to give it to them straight. They’ll go whining for sympathy from someone else, accuse you of being “problematic” or “bullying” and even try to get you banned from online spaces, by going and crying like a spoilt, pathetic child to whoever is moderating a site, because they don’t have enough of a spine to deal with you personally. It’s ridiculous and one of the reasons I chose to start my own blog. I needed to be able to have a place where I could say whatever I wanted, without having such morons, get all bent out of shape because I fail to cater to their very thin skin.

    Straight talking mothers for the win!


    1. My mum would tell me as it is, and that is her being incredibly supportive. When I decided to go on a diet, she would be the one waking up early in the morning juicing carrots and tomatoes for me to drink before I went to school. Making sure that I have a lunchbox full of apples. And put my vitamins all in a little saucer so that I won’t forget to take it.
      She would make this little detour after work, so she could get me the fresh veggies and fruit because I wanted to cut down on rice. Cutting down on rice was weird for Asian family in the late 90’s but my mum did not question my decision and went full on supportive mode.
      I miss that kind of support. I have to suck it up, and done being a spoiled brat, and have to do everything myself here lol…

      1. I’m guessing rice to you and your family, was like potatoes to me and mine! Seen as the absolute bedrock of a meal and served with EVERYTHING! Just goes to show that no matter what culture we grow up in, there is always a carbohydrate staple in there somewhere, of one form or another. x

        1. Yes!! And like potatoes, we do different things with rice too: plain steamed rice, fried rice, coconut rice, rice cakes, rice congee… not mentioning the rice derivatives like rice crackers, rice noodles, etc. Avoiding them was almost impossible without a full on help from my mum at that time. xx

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